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Not Enough Time? It’s The Easy Excuse

Ever hear (or think) these statements?

“I’d really like to get out of my office and talk to our employees, but I just don’t have time.”

“It would be great to get together and reconnect, but I don’t know where I’ll find the time.”

“We should do more fun things as a couple.  But with our schedules, there’s no time.”

“I know I should start going to the gym.  I’ve got to free up some time.”

Aren’t you glad your name isn’t Time?  It would be a demanding and thankless role.  Most people want more of you everyday, yet they blame you for all of their incompletions, inefficiencies, lack of production, lack of happiness, and broken relationships.

“I just don’t have enough Time.” It’s more common than the common cold.

Quite frankly, I think time is an easy, societally accepted, BS excuse.  I fall into the trap of using it sometimes.  What about you?

So, if you use time as an excuse, here are your challenges (should you choose to accept them) – only two things and they won’t take much of your time:

1. prioritization of what you do with your time, and

2. ensuring what you do creates happiness.

1. Prioritization – aligning your activities with your values.

In other words, what’s most important to you?  In her transformational e-book, “Creating the Life You Truly Desire: A New Approach to Goal Setting,” Theresia LaRocque has a series of powerful exercises to help you identify and clarify your most important values, and set goals based upon those values.  Here’s a really short version.

I invite you to grab a coffee, some high-tech instruments (paper and pen), and write a list of what is most important to you. Examples: family, work, money, physical health, mental health, relationships, research/learning, recreation, community, etc.

Put a check mark beside six or eight that are most important to you.  As you ponder on those, you’ll likely find that they are only a “means” to an “end” – to something that is deeper and even more important.  What are those ends values for you?  i.e. Family is a means to what deeper value?  Work is a means to what deeper value?

I invite you to make another list, and it could be 10 to 20 values.  Examples: achievement, affection, balance, environment, contribution, love, fun, recognition, security, connection, spirituality, etc.

Rank each of these on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being not important, and 10 being extremely important to you.

Now I invite you to choose 3 that are the most important to you.

When you think about the activities and tasks you do, which ones align with 1 or more of those values?  And how do you feel when you are doing (or have done) those activities?

2. Creating happiness – planning your activities to align with those values – at least most of the time.

You might be thinking, “But I hate my work and it doesn’t leave much time for things that are most important.”  In very extreme cases, a change of career may be appropriate.

To experience happiness in our activities, it requires a choice of attitude and a loving approach to relationships.

I really don’t want to take the time to change oil, rotate tires, or clean our vehicles.  I don’t want to take the time to write marketing material, make phone calls, or update our websites.   I don’t want to take the time to dispose of garbage, mow grass (or shovel snow), or clean toilets.  But those are tasks that allow us to live comfortably, and allow us to help others enhance their lives through the work we do.  So, I choose to see the value and I decide to enjoy them.  And I know I’m far more effective and productive when I make that choice.

Where in your life, can you choose a more positive attitude toward your tasks?

I invite you to think about some upcoming tasks that may not be your favourites.  We all have them.  Imagine what it can feel like by choosing to see the benefit you are creating for yourself and others.  In your positive state of mind, how can you make your contribution the most valuable and effective?

It’s an easy choice that doesn’t take much time.

And how can you approach your relationships with yourself and others in loving way, in every thought, word, and interaction, regardless of the task?

In the work Carol and I do with corporations, and the coaching we do with individuals and couples, we have never seen or heard of a problem that was anything more than a relationship problem at its core.

Sure, there can be mechanical and technical challenges, yet the most effective resolution is always based in healthy, loving relationships.

Relationships may seem complex, yet the foundational choice is very simple – love rather than not-love.  Yes, even in a work environment.  Love includes attributes like: kindness, compassion, trust, and respect.  I believe we need to make love an integral part of everything we do.

It’s an easy choice that doesn’t take much time.

You and I have exactly the same amount of time each day.  I don’t know about you, but from here on, I’m choosing to do just 2 things with my time: 1) prioritize what I do with my time, and 2) experience happiness in everything I do.

What choices are you making NOW?

Interested in reading more from Dan Ohler, check out his article titled “Want to feel stress-free positive results?”

Top 10 “To Do” Items for Your Farm Business This Year

January is always a good time to “start fresh”, tackle farm business projects we have been putting off, and plan for the year ahead.

Here are 10 Things to do for your business this year:

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1.  Review your will (or get one!)

Of course no one wants to think about their death, but having a will is critical in protecting the future of your business and your family. Who will take care of things if you should pass? Will the business be passed on to others or sold ?
If you already have a will, when was the last time you reviewed it? Have things in your life changed and is your will up to date with all your current assets ?

2.  Review insurance policies

Another task that can easily be put off. This may include health, life, or farm insurance.   Likely it will only take a few minutes of your time, but it is time well spent should something ever happen to you or your farm!

3.  Review your payables/receivables

This is the first step in preparing your yearly budget. Take the time to go through your bills, loan statements and other accounts to make sure you know what you owe and of course what is owed to YOU !

4.  Finish up year end financials (if your year end is Dec. 31st !)

Congratulations to you if you happen to be one of the few people who have all their year end financials in order!   If not get busy and get them cleared up so you can start the year fresh, knowing your books are up to date .

5.  Do production plans for the coming year

This will vary a bit, depending on what you produce. It may include grazing, crop, breeding or forage plans.

6.  Prepare a financial budget

I know you all just groaned to your selves at this one. Preparing a budget can seem overwhelming but it can be quite simple if you have the right tools.    If you need some help with this one don’t be afraid to ask for support !

7.  Figure out every business members goals for the coming year

Sometimes we get so busy thinking about the future of the business that we can forget to check in with the family and co-workers to hear what their own goals, plans and challenges are. As we start a New Year, why not sit down and listen to the needs of the people within the business!

8.  Set goals for your business

Slightly different than our personal goals, these are goals for the business as a whole. Are their changes you want to make, targets you want to hit in regard to production or finances?   How will you do that?

9.  Figure out your cost of production

Do you know how much profit you are making for every unit produced? How much is that cow really making you, or how much are you profiting from the bushel of wheat?

10.  Take a vacation!

No kidding. No one can work ALL the time and stay happy and healthy. Everyone needs to re-charge so we can operate through those busy months with energy and enthusiasm. Even just a weekend get away, or a night a week doing something you love can make all the difference to the success of your business.

This may seem like a lengthy list, and you probably won’t achieve all of these things overnight.  Over time though, remembering to have these key elements of our business in order will support us in creating a successful future.

All the best to you in the coming year!

Jen

 

Conversation Skills #3: The Skills

In this series of short videos, Brady Wilson of Juice Inc. walks you through some hands-on skills that you can test drive in your business and family relationships right away.

This is part 3 of the “Conversation Skills” series. Watch part 1,“Conversation Skills Part 1: The Operating System”

 

Framing Up the Conversation 

 

 

But What if They Won’t Talk?

 

 

But What if it’s Me?

 

 

Engaging the Cortex

 

 

Getting Back to the Point

 

 

One Conversation at a Time

 

 

Getting to Common Ground 

 

 

Intelligent Listening 

 

Conversation Skills #2: The Apps


Brady Wilson
 of Juice Inc. demonstrates that the “Operating System” of conversation, has some killer apps!  Let’s dive into some of them and see how it all works.

 

Why is This Training So Important?

 

 

What’s Your Early Warning Signal?

 

 

Strategies For Keeping Your Marbles

 

 

You Will Get Triggered 

 

 

Blending Inquiry & Directness

 

 

Felt Needs

 

 

The Science Behind the Strategies 

 

 

Support vs felt Support 

 

 

Interference at Work

 

Conversation Skills #1: The Operating System

 

Brady Wilson from Juice Inc. demonstrates that the “Operating System” that lies behind any successful business is effective communication.

“Conversation is the operating system that drives the “applications” of feedback, recognition, problem-solving, and coaching. When done effectively, conversation also fuels great employee and customer experiences, and better business results. Every conversation matters.” –Juice Inc.

In this workshop you will learn how the communication ‘operation system’ works.

 


Conversation: The OS of Your Business

 

The Power of Pull in Conversation

 

The Pull Conversation Process 

 

 

Decoding the Human Brain in Conversation 

 

 

Why the Kitchen Table?

 

 

Losing Your Marbles